Tuesday, November 8, 2016

My thoughts after 7 years with a Puerto Rican woman.....

7 years of marriage to a Puerto Rican and this is what I have learned. No matter what you do or how you do it, it's never enough or done the correct way. Certain Puerto Rican woman can disrespect you for years, lie to you, hold you to a totally different set of standards, consistently call you out your name, tell you they have had sex with a baby daddy on the night of your engagement to her and that baby daddy can't even pay for a gallon of milk for his son! This is the same dude she lied to me about when she first moved in and told me she was working late, but then she wasn't working late she was meeting him at a club trying to get house key's back! But what do you need house keys for when you left the man? Some Puerto Rican woman are judgmental when it comes to my own kids from a previous marriage but continue to keep her breast in her kids mouth and justify it with the most retarded bullshit I have ever heard of, the type of shit usually written on a show on HBO and justify and okay everything her's does, X, her eldest was spoiled, Miles was an angry child and now Mikey her last one the baby is angry. However as the eldest in the house that I do pay mortgage on and the "supposed" "man" of the house what about my anger? I mean Mikey is grown enough to screw girls, old enough to lie to our face and compare his 1 relationship to our marriage and that's okay TO MY WIFE but the minute I snap or get pissed I am wrong, the minute I take xbox away life is too hard for this dude! He runs to mommy and tells her how hard it is and guess what, in bed I have to hear another round of bullshit about how hard and how wrong I am in taking away a teen's xbox because he can't wash dishes or clean his clothes or clean his bathroom on the days that he is supposed to do those chores! Then after months of swallowing my pride and giving in and my patience are no more and the minute I show you again who she knew me to be, then the victim of Mighty Mouth comes out sorry I mean the mouth that always roars. 

My wife claims she needs a protector, no what she needs is a Helen Keller mute, someone who can't hear her unbalanced thought processes about how her kids have had such a hard life but my kids and having a felonous drug addict for a mother isn't a issue when it comes to the great people she has given birth too, I mean they are great, we got her eldest who has had a child and hasn't even allowed his own mother to see her grandson, but he surely wasn't thinking about that when his ass needed money and was calling the house at 3 AM, or was calling her at work calling her a bitch, but the minute I call her a bitch I am so wrong!, isn't that double standards or am I the crazy one? She needs a fuck buddy not a husband because she doesn't know how to respect a marriage or a man, and judging by how she raised 3 boys she doesn't have respect for herself and that is what I told her when we first met, she needs someone who can simply not be bothered by her blatant double standards, someone that isn't effected by someone who can say the most utterly nasty things and have an expectation that nothing said would hurt, but the minute I use the same actions then there is a problem. My father told me decades ago that when it comes to woman I am snake bit, how right he was and is. 

She still no matter what screams that she won't change and continues to call me out my name, to her I am a bitch ass nigga, like Mikey's father! But she never says anything about what she is, other than she knows she has issues! Issues aren't even on the top of her fucked up list of issues, how about her deafness, diabetes, lupus, PMS or now menopause as well as the inability to be fair are the issues she leaves out, but you know what, to her it's all my fault! She is without anything being her fault.

The thing is this, now I see why her kids fathers went and cheated on her and had other kids. Her mouth is her worst enemy and everything she told me about how her mother treated Mano is exactly how she treated and treats her kids and I wonder how's it working for her? To my blind fat little dick ass (HER OWN WORDS OF THE LAST 5 or so years when arguing)  it doesn't look too good but what do I know? I know that sometimes people need to shut the hell up and remember level heads prevail. 

I know when you want to disrespect people for YEARS sometimes they snap, seems to me common sense should always prevail. However she chooses to continue to run her mouth, even after I left the bedroom this last time last month and went all the way to the bottom floor she just couldn't shut the fuck up she had to come down with the intention of starting a fight and getting the last word in edgewise cause Crystal has taken enough shit from men! Crystal couldn't care enough about me to say you know he probably is stressed the fuck out with life, his step son blatantly lies to his face, doesn't do his chores and I give him everything it doesn't matter that Mikey doesn't do a 1/4 of what all the other kids had to do but can't even do what he is supposed too. Nope not her not Crystal, Mikey does what he wants and has no accountability, as long as he is getting a 3.0 GPA in a dumbed down public school Jesus Mikey can fuck, suck, play Xbox and go to every party he wants and Crystal is right there to put the titty in his mouth when he wants to be babied again and then tell me it's okay cause he isn't a bad kid, or it's okay because this is her last child! and if I say anything with regards to it, I am wrong. 

Perhaps had she focused more on respecting them baby daddies then getting the last word in to win an argument things may have went differently, I am not sorry that both her kids fathers cheated on her,  at this juncture in life she would have been better served having an abortion or being on birth control, I see her kids as being terrible as relationships go, however I also recognize that if she was anywhere near who she is now with that mouth, I see why they cheated. Does it make it right? Nope but I don't know of any man that will sit around being consistently disrespected and or chastised or shown his thoughts and desires mean nothing when it comes to a damn spoiled ass child that can't even do what the hell they are supposed to do but always gets everything they want.

I was told I have so many characteristics like her father and how she would do anything to see him again but the one man that she married that reminds her so much like her own father is treated like shit, make fun at my expense and when I reacts to her years of actions, and words then she's pissed? Sorry that makes no sense to me at all.  I have coached her son in football, I have tried to be a father to other men's seeds and all I get in return is a bullshit excuse about they are teens and their actions are normal, no it's ABNORMAL just like your justifications but because you make a 6 figure salary your right, right? Your right all the way up to when your son who begs for money only calls you when he is fucked up high or drunk, but then tell her that, and I am wrong, your 6 figure salary afforded your eldest bus tickets out of New York cause he was being chased for money owed, your 6 figure salary afforded him a paid cell phone when he used your money to pay his cell phone bill, but the one thing you asked of him he couldn't do but again Xavier is my fault for Xavier calling you a mindless worker bee and me seeing his brother cry and beg for his brother with whom he missed years ago is all my fault, maybe she should have kept his bedroom instead of turning it into an office for a no good nigga that didn't even work?? I don't know that too made no sense but recently none of her makes any sense. To every other woman I have canvassed that action would have made a normal woman fall even deeper in love, but not my wife, I am treated like a child, I don't make enough money, my dick isn't big enough, I am too fat but again years and years of disrespect and she is pissed at the monster she created when it comes to me. I wonder why she can't be mad at the monsters she bred and built, selective amnesia is what the clinical term is. 

Well I say to hell with that and to her ridiculous rhetoric and double standards, I could care less that she at 15 got pregnant cause she was so easy give her attention and compliment and she was giving you her pussy! That's what was told to me with sincere conviction, but the mention is it using it against her, it's not my issue or fault that her mother made her life such a living hell, but I suspect in some way in her mindset I responsible for that too.

She is her mother reborn, treating me like shit just like her mother treated her husband my wife's father who I am so much a like! My wife made choices as WE ALL MAKE AND MADE CHOICES but again she isn't the first woman to fuck young and won't be the last one, she did what the fuck she wanted so why is that an issue now 30 odd years later or an excuse? She can say all she wants about me being over weight my personal traits or whatever she wants but when did she become Venus Di Milo? In marriage you accept the good with the bad, I never wanted perfection, I wanted a woman who wasn't a fucking drug addict bringing men into my house to stab me, I wanted a woman that had like goals. However what I got was a walking conundrum of garbled mental issues and reasons why she has no friends. But then wonders why i won't take her dancing. Who the fuck besides my wife rewards bad behavior? Who other than my wife can allow everyone to shit all over her but the minute I do it, then it's a problem? 

Regardless I did the best I could more than most, In the end I accept my 50% I allowed her to disrespect me for years, I allowed the disrespect to our marriage and if all she can do is be mad at the monster her mouth and years of put downs and disrespect created then so be it. Again people that know when to say when, usually don't have the problems she does. I may not have been the perfect father, or husband but I did the right thing and was always consistent, the only constant thing with her was disrespect, my values not being valid over her kids and the fact that she is more married to her 16 year old than she was or will ever be married to me. In the end I have changed from a man who used to be so excited to see my wife to a man that barely wants to see her at all. Her mouth has done serious damage to the point that the last time she told me that she fucked another dude the night of our engagement I didn't see my wife anymore, I saw a man that needed his ass beat. This isn't what I signed up for and this type of Puerto Rican dysfunction that she brings to our marriage is slowly killing me but I will not go out without a fight, I have been fighting my whole life. I thought at 51 my battles would have been all fought, but nope now I have some unreasonable woman who is my wife I have to contend with, how's it going to end?? I don't know but what I do know is that bitch ass nigga that you think I am, keep playing me short. In life you keep pulling a dogs tail, what the fuck happens? As I said common sense will always prevail and when you get a man like me to a point that I really don't care, I hope your wolf tickets were really worth it. Cause I gotta say for as smart as you might be in that office of yours when it comes to your marriage your really stupid and have no clue what happiness or fairness is. That's just a fact.

Mindset

You know after all I have done for my children I think I should have never had kids. My first marriage ended because my ex-wife decided to become a drug addicted convicted felon, that abandoned her two children to abuse drugs. Then she had not one but two kids out of wedlock the second while she was serving time in jail. I have been through alot of adversity in my life and I have always bounced back, but now me moving on with my life, getting remarried and finally being blessed with an awesome woman and career, my daughter decides its her turn to bend Daddy over. My wife has 3 boys from other relationships, I have two kids myself from my previous marriage and we have tried to lead by example to give and only had but one expectation, to stay on the honor role and to do chores. The chores consisted of each child taking a night to do the kitchen and keeping thier rooms clean and washing thier clothes. Now mind you one the eldest kid decided about 20 credits shy of a degree to drop out of UVA, I allowed him to move in for 6 months based on him getting a job, but all this dude did was steal, and smoke weed in our house, then I had my 16 year old son living here too, he refused to study but was more worried about being someone he wasn't, smoking weed too, begging teachers not to fail him, the boy went so far as to lie and cry child abuse to his mother so he could have a easier way.

See I am real and I married a white woman, and my children are mixed. I can say with no racial implications that races really shouldn't mix. My only biological son has a history of crying wolf in an effort to get his way. Mind you I decided with that last lie, that was enough and gave up custody and now he is dead to me, I am sure that many of you won't agree but I ask, when is a single father supposed to have some happiness? Why is it I can provide a roof, clothes, 600 dollars in Lacrosse gear and I can't even get honesty? Well at 44 I decided if he wants to live with a convicted felon that does nothing but deliver paper's for a living and a drunk who she had the other 2 kids with, SO BE IT.

My daughter swore up and down that she would never hurt me as he did, mind you my daughter has always been on the honor roll, dean's list and has always done good in school. Well welcome to Seneca Valley and the 9th grade, welcome to me finding out that she too smokes weed, has been skipping school, forging letters to school to get out of her PE class to finally having a crush on her step brother. Well hold tight cause it get's better.

Let me fast forward to my 18 year old step son who couldn't cut it in PG County, this dude comes to Seneca becomes a Basketball Captain and thinks he is Superman or something, he has this condescending attitude like he is perfect and has never admitted to anything wrong, it was always his mother's fault or his father's who BTW decided to leave him, his older brother and his mother in a motel room with 100.00 bucks, or so I have been told. This is the very same "boy" that couldn't start in PG County's Basketball High School Team and seems to have forgotten where he came from.

I have tried for 2 years to develop a friendship with him. I have given money, brought him shoes and paid in excess of a grand this past June for his limo to his prom. He knows I have a good job, a top secret clearance and I have asked that he respect that. His respect is smoking weed, leaving home made bongs in the room, leaving weed bags all over the place and not doing his chores, but this gump could eat 2-3 bowls of cereal at a time and actually looks to his older brother as a father figure, this father figure couldn't even make it to his graduation, So there Mr. "Brother's Keeper" how is that working for you?  Well you know as I have been writing this I think that this is a Godsend because I feel this is the only way to get my feelings out. This "dude" has a twitter page a facebook page and if you read it you would think he is the hardest dude out there, he talks about getting fucked up all weekend how he wants to slap his mother and that he has his whole life ahead of him, one of his newest tweets is "I stuck my neck out for you" Well Einstien so did your mother and me, and what did we get besides a lesson learned that you ain't shit? Did you actually think that lying to the guidance couselor would be that drastic? Did you not think my daughter when the chips are down won't rat your stupid ass out? Well guess what she did, You do know that Statutory Rape is a felony right? You do know she kept a journal that has entries about you two cuddling at night, how you know how to please her body and how she knows how to please yours, and when it get's down to it who do you think the law is going to believe? A black tatoo wearing Thug a Bug that rants about smoking weed and smacking his own mother on twitter? You to profess to be smart, you are actually about as street smart as a damn fool, you think your past was bad, you have no clue what can of worms your punk mouth brought, so sit back and keep tweeting, cause it's making my case so much stronger and easier, if your big time brother, father figure couldn't see your graduation maybe he can come in see you when I put you in Clarksburg, maybe you will have college courses there to take. You lied talking about how I punched my daughter in the face 4 times with a closed fist and you saw it

 I mean that bama ass gump had the nerve to lie to the school, and lie to the cops and the worst thing, my daughter sided with him, all because this immature problem child is in love with her step brother! Now the school calls CPS, they call her mother who hasn't seen or spoken to her child in almost a year! The mother, my Ex calls my sister trying to pry for information, rather than to call me to ask what's going on, my ex tells my sister she thinks I am Bi-Polar! No that was my Ex's diagnosis from one of her several stays at a drug rehabilitation place that she always left against medical advice!

Guess what I get arrested AFTER the protection order is thrown out in court, all because my lawyer didn't speak to the detective in a time he decided. I now have to  miss days of work and while these two now are out funning I am sitting back deciding how to get my revenge. My daughter has no clue what a CINS is and she left 2 journals in her room that I have, I also have condoms, I have an admission by her that her and her 18 year old step brother "kissed"  and messed around! Anyone that has 1 ounce of maturity will read these journals and know that those two slept together, and the kicker is my wife, found them in bed not once but twice, we have messages saved telling them to stay away from one another and they have completely disregarded our rules. So as this dude enters into Towson and runs like a  fairy around telling people his mother threw him out the house for some dick, I want to see what happens when he is arrested for statutory rape at Towson, I wonder if they throw him out, I wonder how long he will be incarcerated pending a hearing. Some say I shouldn't do it, some say it's revenge for what he did to me, but isn't it my right to try to take a sexual predator off the streets? Shouldn't I do my due diligence cause it's not like his biological father understands the truth and lives in denial. I have every right to show him what a grown mature man can and will do. I will simply tell the authorities what I have seen, give them the journal, the stuffed Pooh Bear with the condom hidden in it, and my daughters admission and we will see what society does to a tall black man with tatoo's. I wonder then how arrogant he will be when he is sitting caged like a animal.

I really think that if these kids would have simply done what was asked, met us as parents half way we all would be happy. But unfortunately this isn't the case. I now have to show by example that when you play pussy you do get fucked. I really sat back and thought about the actions, as well as the repercussions of everyone's actions and who is hurt, bothered by the current events of things. I mean I have a 14 year old daughter that is damaged goods, I have a 18 year old step son that hides behind Twitter and Facebook, the sad thing is that the more I think about his actions the more I see he and my biological son are the same, I mean hell, my 16 year old son that lives with his mother now, stole money out of his grandfather's sock drawer to give to the 18 year old. The same 16 year old was running a muck on You Tube trying to be a rapper named of all things "Heavy Bitch" I mean this is the same "son" that too is damaged goods, and I ask myself was I really that bad of a father? It seems like as long as I am spending money, taking them out to eat, I am the best father, but as soon as I have standards and expect them to measure up there is a problem. So the 18 and 16 year olds do the twitter thing, have no clue exactly what being a man is or based on what I have seen won't, because they are going to lie, or screw over someone that doesn't play and they will end up shot, beat down or worse. Will I shed a tear, nope I don't think I will because I did all I could. Especially for my two biological kids, I wasn't the one getting arrested, I wasn't the one in jail and I surely wasn't the one that abandoned them as thier biological mother did repeaditly. But yet these two hold some candle to a convicted felon and hide behind the excuse of that's my mother. My 16 year old son used to tell people in his school that his mother died, of a drug overdose, I remember times the school and some of his friends parents would call asking if I needed anything, I would ask what are you talking about? To be told he told us his mother died of a overdose. I would respond no his mother is in jail giving birth to her second child out of wedlock. I guess that would damage a child huh? Your mother adandon's you to have 2 more kids, the last one in jail, and my son called one weekend to tell me, it's not a good thing, and it's not a bad thing. WOW I could do nothing but shake my head in amazement.

So I ask myself, why can't my kids give me the respect they give her? I have been perplexed with this question for a while and I think it's because she is white, I actually think that both my kids feel being white entitles you to a differing set of rules, I mean I know society does, so why wouldn't my kids?

I look at all the time that courts allowed my ex chance after chance and she basically laughed all the way to her next vicodin, oxycontin, excstacy pill, then tried to take methadone. This woman couldn't stay straight to save her life, then when her dozen or so chances ran out and she was locked up, she had lesbian affairs in jail, after she was released she gave her girlfriends my address and they were sending some pretty X rated stuff, hell my ex was even going up there to see them after she was released. After a while I had to admit that to continue this so called marriage was a farce and not only me, but my kids deserved better.

Even though I have done right by my kids, they haven't done right by me and I am honestly at a point of acceptance, there is nothing that either one of my kids can do to me to hurt me again, my heart has been ripped and stomped on by them many times. I think about past relationships that didn't work out because of my kids lies and deceptions, then I think about my ex wife and her choice to be in another screwed up relationship with a drunk, I mean but then again looking at the weight, and the amount of years that the jail time and drugs have taken away from her, I don't think she can really be picky, that isn't to be mean but who she was versus who she is and looks like now, gross. She actually took so many pain pills for so long one of her breasts are noticably bigger than the other one, it's actually a shame what she did to herself, but that is a cross that My-Ex has to bare, as I will bare mine.

I think what goes around comes around and I think that society as a whole has had more of a negative impact on our kids then we realize, I mean the media tells every drug bust that has a movie star attached to it, many professional athletes are weed smoking tatoo wearing thugs that really aren't role models, or should I say 95% of them aren't. But we as parents do the best we can and at a point a child makes a choice, to love and obey the parent(s) that has always been there, or to do what they want. I see exactly what happens when they make a poor choice, they have white grandparents that are living a lie, meaning Nanny is or once was only with Papa because of his money. This woman used to call us and beg to have the kids over the weekend because she didn't want to have sex with her husband, the husband is so out of touch he has no clue the lies and deceptions that have been ran on him  for years and when I have tried to tell him, he thought I was the liar, but he was too prideful to ask himself, how did I know about the golden dollars in his safe, I never had the combination, but yet they came up missing, how did I know about him keeping money in his sock drawer, and I haven't been in his house in years, but he is too blind to see what is really there, or can simply pass blame and judgement this coming from a man that NEVER HAD any kids of his own because he has diabetes. I wonder what he would do if he found out about the Jamaican man his wife was tongue kissing in Ocean City? I guess he would think that a lie as well.

Well I went off on a tangent for a while but I am back on point now, my father came into town after 11 years and he left pissed off at everyone, from all his kids, to his grandkids. I mean somehow he blames me for my daughter deciding to fuck her stepbrother and smoke weed and lie, he blames my sister for having a heroin addict for a daughter. We won't even get into my other sisters because those are a whole other blog. I am deeply saddened but I know I am living right, and God is blessing me even when I can't see it, I know Satan is hard trying to take what God has given and it's a test. I have my good day's, I have my bad days. My father doesn't understand how I can totally treat my son as I do, like he is dead, but what my dad did was teach me how to do it, hell at one time or another he treated all of us like we were dead, my father has a lot of wisdom and I love him more than I can express and I strive for him to be proud of me, but it's also hard remembering some choices he made, things he did and for him to not come in town for 11 years to see his kids and grandkids but he could go to NY, Indianapolis when he wanted, that's okay though right? Maybe he isn't equipped to understand that maybe he could have played a more important part in our lives, parenting doesn't come with a instruction manual and just because you paid child support, doesn't mean nothing to us because for myself I would have rather had my dad than some support that was often not spent on me anyway.

And yes I did move away from father at the age of 14, I was tired of growing up in a Air Force Bar in God forsaken Witchita Kansas seeing my father drunk everynight wanting to beat my ass and getting home at 11:30PM. Maybe I should have stuck it out, who knows but we all have demons. Even my dad. I am very sad his views of things because he really can't understand today's world, with his attitude I don't think he would make it in today's world. But the one thing, we were taught is there is a line you don't cross, something my kids never learned. By hook or by crook they will never take responsibility for thier actions. It's always my fault. And that is a crock of shit.I don't know why or even how my kids still at this juncture in life try to pit me against thier mother, they still don't get that just because you have kids doesn't make you mother, that there are many woman out there that never had kids that are better mother's than many woman that do have kids. I mean hell Jennifer was so screwed up she couldn't even produce milk to breast feed them. I do hope that oneday the common sense gene arises from whatever slumber it's taking.

I have spoken in depth to my nephew who has told me that my son wants a relationship with me, and he wants me to be proud of him. Sorry not going to happen, how can a father be proud of a son that lies, that tries to be something he isn't? How can a father be proud of a son that has lied, stolen and caused unneeded problems? Then he has the nerve to say he wants a relationship as long as I take him out to have lunch, to go shopping? Sorry but I am not going to do it. Mind you do I harbor ill will? No he made a choice so have at it. I did the best I could given the cards dealt to me and again the kids have no loyalty AT ALL. It's about them and what they want to have and what they can get and everyone be damned.

I look at my daughter and ever since I can remember she has always been treated unfairly, almost every time she would come home from her visits with her "family" in Frederick she would be in tears about the favoritism shown to my son, how he got to do everything he wanted and she didn't. I allowed my daughter to move up with her mother because I thought that maybe my Ex was finally at a point to do the right thing. Well my daughter moves up there, she get's caught shoplifting then my Ex finds a mattress in the dumpster and brings it home for her and my daughter is tore up from bed bug bites. She get's a room in the basement and her two 1/2 brothers go down there and destroy it and she complains. Her mother's boyfriend and 1/2 brothers daddy drinks and from what my daughter has said has touched her and thrown her against the wall! And when she told her mother, she chose her boyfriend over her only daughter! Now what does that say? also when she moved back her mother didn't give her the things that her grandmother brought for her, now how messed up is that, but yet my daughter still wants a relationship with these people.

It's amazing that some children/teens are not smart enough or equipped to understand that as parents sometimes we have to save them from themselves. I know I am far from perfect but damn, God blesses me, my job, my wife, my 11 year old son that loves and adores me more than his own biological father, and I try with an open mind to seek blessings in Frederick, and what do I see? My Ex still disfunctional, still in court fighting for custody of her two young kids, she deliver's papers for the Frederick News Post and her boyfriend is a part time barber, now my daughter is saying that he now doesn't drink (AS MUCH) like she is some authority on what is and isn't too much or too little. I have joined a church as well and have tried to give all my kids the tools needed to make proper choices, but they have failed miserably. My daughter wants to tell me how her brother is doing so much better. My question is you haven't seen or been around him in almost a year and what in just about 2 weeks you can gauge all that? Well if you can please tell me why is it he just got his cell phone back on his 16th birthday if he is doing so good? What about his grades? is he doing better in school because of hard work or because Frederick's School System is so much easier than Montgomery County? Sorry my daughter is book smart when she applies herself but as dumb as the day is long when it comes to common sense and street smarts. I mean what 14 year old smokes weed with boys and texts it? Why put on Twitter that you skipped school and make comments like even when I am wrong I am right? Lastly who forges thier step mother's name so much the school sends emails asking if there is some physical problem because your too damn lazy to do the required things in PE? But yet be so worried about wearing make up, looking like a French Whore in school. Then she is so stupid as to fall in love with her step brother, I mean how sick is that? Then to read the journals, to find condoms in her stuffed animals named after her step brother's nick name that only his mother calls him.

You know as I write this I ask is this true? Surely no one has to contend with this and surely no one that has always been there for his children from day one. Yes it's sad but true, I think I made a grave mistake allowing my kids to see thier mother in jail, I think I also messed up with sharing things when they were too young, and so I also play a part in this. I never have not said I didn't my only thing is the lack of loyalty. Even a dog doesn't bite the hand that feeds it, but my kids do.

It's now 6/16/2011 and it's my "daughter's" 15th birthday tomorrow, a couple days ago my sister asked me what I am getting her for her birthday. I replied not a damn thing, to which she replied you have to at least get her a birthday card. There is no way I am getting her a card or anything else, number one I have a no contact order thanks to her lies. Secondly with the amount of money I am shelling out to prove these allegations a lie, I don't think I will be getting her anything anytime soon, that means school clothes, school supplies. As a matter of fact I am resigned that she will get three hots and a cot basically. I will not "neglect" her but I can't ever see her as my daughter again and I can surely not ever see us having a positive relationship.

I guess my feelings can be summed up in this way. I love her because she is my daughter, but I hate what she has become and I detest who she is. As I have been away from my home I have had alot of time to think about my choices, society, my faith. I know for certain that many people have this undying devotion to thier kids no matter what they do, no matther what! I think about my sister and her love for her eldest daughter and it rips my heart because so many people continue to enable people and either use love as a excuse or either use a situation to excuse what they decide to do. I understand full well blood, family and I understand parenthood, but what I can't understand is parents allowing and enabling one child to perhaps cause uneeded stress to other siblings. I think about my youngest niece now and what must be going through her head. We aren't close and I feel that I wish we were because I know she has alot on her mind and maybe there is some comfort or understanding I could provide, but then a part of me thinks, my own kids are screwed up so what could I possibly offer to her? But then reality comes back and I realize that I raised both my kids better than what they have chosen to exhibit. I know that because society and goverment feel the need to dictate now how we parent and what we can do as parents to our children this makes parenting more harder and difficult than it has to be. I think about my childhood and the plastic army men, my bikes, my train sets and racing car sets and models and I was very happy. I didn't need 200 dollar Lebron's or 150 dollar Jordan's. I didn't need a cell phone, a Xbox 360, and Playstation 3 and a Wii. I didn't need 500 channels on my TV. But I was happy. Now look at all we provide our kids today and they for the most part aren't happy cause one of their friends have more. When I got a spanking as a child I knew I messed up and I never thought about crying child abuse. I surely wasn't thinking about smoking weed either, I didn't know what a music video was or a rated R movie, but I was happy. Look at how 10 and 11 year old girls wear make up now have bigger boobs and hips than 30 year old woman. And the parents allow this. I was against my daughter wearing makeup. I said not until she was 16, but of course the mother, and my sister said I was too old school. Now when on restriction she tells her friends to bring makeup to school so she can wear it. Why do young kids want to grow up so fast? Don't they know that the world we live in today basically is shitty? High bills to pay and most of the time an income that barely allows you to make ends meet, but they are oblivious to it.

Anyway back to my original point. I am not one of those parents that continue to give and give and not have anything but lies, and betrayal given back to me. I know I can do bad by myself. I know in life you have to give to get. In school you put in the work, you get the grades. At work you work hard you usually get the raises and promotions. But my kids think they can give the minimum and get the maximum and when they don't they can run to thier mother, like she is in any position to give them more than me! My daughter went to Frederick thinking her mother was in some house. They say she is in a apartment to save money to get a house. She doesn't realize that her mother has been supposedly getting a house for the last 3 years and with the housing market now so low, this is a prime time to purchase a house. But again her mother and grandmother can tell my daughter that crap is pink and she would believe it. My ex has no ability to come to me as a adult and talk things over about the kids putting the kids ahead of her feelings. The kids know this too and sit back and watch us battle. But I have been doing this song and pony dance for too long.

I have proven for years that I love my kids without conditions. I have proven that I am a good father, but I don't get any loyalty, I don't get any trust and like that old saying says, you can take a horse to the water but you can't make it drink. I apply that to my kids. I am done fussing, fighting and proving to them. I have a new marriage, a wonderful wife and a step son that shows and loves me alot like what my kids USED to do with me. Why they decided to change is a cross for them to bare. I know oneday both my kids are going to feel remorse for the things done to me directly by them. The sad thing is they are missing time with me that they will never get back and I know that no one is to blame BUT THEM.

I still am away from my home, I have good days and bad days and today I woke up pissed that I was again away from my home over some bullshit lie that a cruddy immature child caused just cause I removed her fuck buddy step brother from the house. I still haven't calmed down, I mean my anger is still here but I have had a chance to put it in prospective. My daughter is a piece of shit, period. No sugar coating it, what child does that to the one parent that has always been in her life as the constant? What child does this knowing her father has a real good job and is now making good money, happy in his marriage? A piece of shit of a child does that's who. I guess she thought hey, my dad's fucking so can I, even though my wife and I have told them verbetim "the only ones fucking in this house are us - meaning myself and my wife" But of course a step son and my daughter blow that off and do them. I have read about this happening to other family's but I never thought it would happen to mine. It still blows my mind and really I knew my daughter wasn't a virgin, but to screw her own STEP BROTHER? That is some sick shit! And for my Step Son to screw his STEP SISTER and he being 18? THAT IS SOME SICK TWISTED SHIT!! I mean this dude can't get no pussy in his age range? I know his rap is weak but DAMN!

June 17, 2011 This dude is totally not living in a real reality. I mean who posts crap like this on twitter:




These girls bout high as hell in my house



Now what kind of fool tweets these things? His brother has done nothing but steal and get kicked out of everywhere he has lived. And you want to praise him for teaching you to be a man? WOW you are truly in need of a mental ward. Anyone aged 18 that looks to his older failure of a brother as a man is either retarded or really emotionally unbalanced, this "Father" Figure couldn't even make it to your graduation you stupid ass! Why are you going from house to house like a fucking vagabond if your brother is making so much money and is doing so good? Have you gotten your graduation money from him yet? LMBAO! This dude is completely on some new shit and I really am glad he is no longer here in my house to further fuck up the two that are here, now I really can see why my daughter is so completely fucked, she had this sick fuck in her ear for close to two years, teaching her the game! She too is stupid as hell cause the game he taught her will leave her with alot of repairing to do.
He put a tweet out there that he misses his little brother.....

6/20/2011 Well wifey and I got home last night and she asked me to check to see what the Twits had tweeted and I check my daughters and she deleted her new account, the one about pissing in sinks to go back to her old one. Well me being the father I am, I access her email and to my amazement yet again she is emailing her step brother talking about how short her hair is and how she and her other little step brother miss him so much and cry for him! They schemed for this fool to come over to my house this week sometime and how he doesn't like my nephew for putting his business in the street! LMBAO

Okay listen here Mr. Slim Shady no one in my family likes, yo no one on your mother's side likes you! You are a piece of shit, your days are numbered BRUH! I know you think I must be lying again right? Well here:

Let the world know your a sick weed smoking fake ass sexual predator that tries to be harder than you are?

The entire time he was here he did NOTHING for or with his little brother. I mean never took him to the basketball court, never to a movie, NOTHING! So if you do nothing for someone that means the world to you then you surely are a sick twisted fuck. I think the truth is your just pissed I put your sorry nasty ass out before you could fuck him up.
You know I don't think I have hated too many people in my life as I do this "sorry walking waste of dna" I can now say that I have thought about it, put him ranked as number 2 on my all time hate list, my Ex being number one.
This fuck is seriously a piece of work. Oh to be 18 again, living off your stepsiblings friends, praising a professional failure wanting to get tatted up and smoke weed! Yeah that is a role model for two younger siblings huh??
Well that is all I have for todays tweets now, I have to go to my mother in laws today. I hope things go well......................

I mean like he has nothing better to do than to put his illegal habit out for all to see? I mean what smart mature person does that? I seem to recall my father teaching me, it's not what you do it's how you do it!
It's going to be very funny watching this imbecile's life IMPLODE.

So I went home Friday night and had a wonderful Friday with no kids, I had an awesome Saturday again with no kids and Wifey and I went to Seafood in the Buff to get clams and shrimp, which was very good. We watched several movies and went to bed where she came up to a incense and candle lit room. WHAT A NIGHT! I woke up about 7:15AM on Father's Day and walked my dog, who get's out of his collar and attacks two dogs at the park. Well again I am reminded that my dog is a damn beast. I get him back on the leash and walk him home and go back to bed and sleep a few more hours.

After we woke up we made some blueberry coffee and a cheese and shrimp omelette. Where I am waiting for wifey to peel the shrimp so I can make us breakfast and I look on Twitter to see what the Twits are Tweeting. Well my daughter who is at her Aunts house hasn't really twitted anything this weekend bad or crazy, however Friday she tweets how she now pisses in the sink and only uses the toilet to poo. Now at 15 this fool tweets that? She surely has to know that this too will be seen and this further proves this child is in need of some serious mental help.

The 18 year old "stepson" is of course talking about, what else? Getting high and drunk which seems to be the norm now. Here are his tweets, make your own conclusions:


8 hours ago

It's been a weird couple of days, as I spent the Father's Day weekend with my wife my "daughter" was at my sister's who is her "Godmother" Well you know she had access to the computer right? You know she got on Twitter and then lied to my sister about just being on the computer to watch you tube video's! My sister actually fell for it! Well she goes to her email and who is the first one she emails? Her step brother who she misses so much! You mean to tell me you can go almost a year and not worry about your biological brother, your biological mother and your maternal grandparents but you can't go 3 weeks without your step brother and you all aren't fucking? RIGHT!!

Again she simply is too stupid and yet that common sense light hasn't turned on! She sends him emails about how she misses him and how his 1/2 brother misses him and they cry for him! LOL!! She got this dude so far up her ovaries her eggs look this this molester, as a matter of fact he needs to get a tattoo alright, the next one saying Chester The Molester..... He writes her back about how he is going to randomly drop by and how he doesn't want to label my nephew as he has labeled me! Well I don't think him knocking on my door a real good idea, especially since people got heat for a molester. I wouldn't want to be him if he does. I prayed on it the night before and I told wifey to send him an email and put it out there, now we again have put the ball in his court, let's see if his common sense gene has kicked in or has all the weed put that into hibernation.

3:01PM Well I know that he has contacted his mother claiming to understand. He states he won't contact her and that he could give a damn about anyone else in the house. Now I see that perhaps my wife is playing nice and all but again, never once does this fucker admit to wrong doing and my wife is telling how the three will spend time together. Well not if I have anything to do with it, since my wife appears to be unable to see the depth of wrong doing of her great molester of a child, and seems to put it all on my daughter she seems to not comprehend that the older mature son OF HER's went with it and had the power to stop it and NEVER ALLOW it to go as far as he did. But yet she wants to say how he and his older brother who has shitted on me and my wife is still in her life? Yeah I think I can honestly say now I know why the ex husband and ex boyfriend treated her like a piece of shit, cause you pretend to have standards but all that goes out the window in the name of love for two pieces of shit. So it is what it is and yeah I am pretty pissed off at my wife not doing what the fuck she should and telling this fuck that what he did was wrong to my daughter, to me and to play nice well I think she thinks once these bullshit charges are dropped I am going to let dead dogs lay, well my wife has no clue, I am going to make it a fucking personal number one thing on my agenda to get her fucking son put away for as long as I can, and if she doesn't like it, she can get the fuck too. Maybe if she hadn't have been so quick to fuck these sorry ass bastards maybe she would have breded better but god damn you go from a mental arrogant prick to a fucking stuttering gorilla? and these are the two you decide to have kids with?

Wow atleast I can say my kids are fucked up from a mother that is a drug addict, what the fuck is her excuse? I can really say that when my dad told me at a young age woman ain't good but for one thing, and when you can't do that anymore leave em the fuck alone, I think I see the meaning, My wife talks a good game but when the chips are down it's about them fucking walking abortions she had. Well this is one fucking thing she won't and can't control, cause unlike her I say what the fuck I mean and I mean what the fuck I say. Her bitch ass 18 year old is going to feel what it's like to fuck my underage daughter and then lie and get my ass hemmed up in some shit, and if my daughter burns along with his ass SO FUCKING BE IT. Amazing just when I think I can truly trust her she writes that shit and this is how slick she thinks she is, she deletes all instances of her email to him, his response and deletes everything. I guess she thinks I wasn't reading what she was saying when it was being drafted at 2:57PM

As she is so quick to tell people "hows it going for you?" Keep your oldest and your molester son's close and in your life, but don't think about using my car to go see them and as I said it is a fucking crusade I am on to put your bitch ass arrogant son UNDER a FUCKING JAIL. See I finally see that all of them my wife included only deal with tyrants, they have no clue how to love, respect and enjoy a good man and you know I think at 46 it's my time to do me, it's my time to not give a fuck about no one, fuck my kids, fuck her kids and if she doesn't like it, fuck her too.

4:06 6/21/11 I went to smoke and thought about her email and his response and I see that she is now blaming the fact that her youngest wasn't brought home because of him and my daughter being intimate,
That's utter bullshit, her son wasn't brought home cause you got pregnant by a stuttering bitch that is also truly a piece of shit! And this is like the 4th or 5th time that ass has done this, this has nothing to do with your son having underage sex with my daughter!

I also notice that he didn't respond to his mother's email "No Mom I didn't do it!" So while my "wife" wants to blame her not getting her son back at the court ordered time, the real issue that she will never see is she should have never had a child with that asshole, it's amazing how a woman will do so much under the guise of a "relationship" I just never will understand why my wife gave that dude the time of day, I think that although she will never admit to it, her ex husband mentally fucked her up and the shit my daughter is doing now is a reminder of the shit that happened in her life growing up. Hell my wife too was fucking at 13 and was pregnant at 15. So I know my wife knows her "son" was fucking his step sister and never once did she admonish him or nothing in her email, it's about him being her blood! I guess it will take Jesus to teach her just because someone is youre blood doesn't mean that you sit back and ignore bad things or turn the other cheek. I mean yeah this dude says he loves you but was he worrying about loving you as he put his dick in a 14 year old step sister? Did he love you when he was dropping weed bags all over the place? And was he really loving his mother when he lied to the school? Fuck no, but you know what maybe oneday her common sense button will also be fully lighted because it's painfully obvious that her's come's with a dimmer switch, when it's one of her fucked up kid's doing shit she dims it. When all this kicked off she calls his biological father and tells him about it, he has the nerve to tell her that the detective called but he wouldn't let him speak to him. Then on the charging documents it says that he spoke to him, so even her ex husband lies to her and she actually believed he would keep her son safe! That's why he is back living in Germantown like I don't know where he is, what a bunch of dumb fucks, what the fuck did I get myself into? A fucking circus! Now mind you my EX isn't perfect either, but at the very least that booger bear pretty much doesn't bother me unless one of her kids is lying. My wifes ex's seem to get some orgasm lying to her and making her life a living hell.

So yeah I am back to being at the 35th level of pissiness. I can't believe I have done nothing but try to give to these ungrateful son's of bitches and this is the thanks I get, being honest I am almost at a point of willingness to blow them all the fuck away and go lay down in the gray bar hotel, maybe there I won't be among a bunch of Judas's. My whole mindset has changed and I ain't doing shit for no one else in my life, mother fuck em.

There is a saying that is ringing truer and truer Bad things happen to good people. Well that's my testament. I can't believe thinking back on the days that my kids were born that I would really really wish they were never born but I am at that point, I am at that point of understanding that just some people no matter how much you love and do things that even go against every grain in your body will always look to the walking abortions they had. The bad thing is I know I am going to come out of this, and I know sooner rather than later I will be able to tell them all to kiss my ass, I don't need none of em, and at this point what the fuck does love have to do with anything, so fucking what your baby is at his Dad's playing fucking Xbox in a home he hasn't paid shit for in years, meanwhile your fucking son got me put out because his bitch ass would rather fuck a pressed youngin than to be a real mack and fuck someone he should have been, so to you and to your eldest sons fuck all you all and I hope you all burn in hell.

I see a night of Captain Morgan and Jack Daniels in my near future.
6:17PM 6/21 I went like a good house nigger to pick her up. She asked me am I mad at her...I believe a small part knows I read her emails but she will play it till the end. But she ain't never dealt with a level headed nigga like me, someone that knows oh to well how to skin and grin in your face as I slide a blade of revenge across your throat. She thinks some unemployed stuttering monkey was hard, huh she's about to feel the wrath of a true Green Eyed Mother Fucker.

This is the sandbox of life and your fucked up ass older kids have drawn the perverbial line and I see where you stand, truth be told Mikey saved your kids from a destruction not you, your pussy or our marriage, but now since I know the game and all the players Mikey would be better off not having fucksticks like that as brothers. Whether you see it now or later your bitches put your ass in a no win situation.

So be mad at my daughter, she is but 15 your son is 18 and I will guarendamntee he will know what a jail cell is and I will then look at you and ask how did that go for you since you like to say that comment and I hope your old ass 6'5 ex has something to say cause he ain't shit either.

As God once said "vengence is mine" and you and your eldest kids will rule the day they ever tried to fuck over me, cause the one that laughs last always laughs best. BELIEVE THAT!

As I sit here with my Captain and Coke I ask myself, am I having a nervous breakdown? I truthfully don't know but what I do know is I will go out with a real bang if I am.

6/22/2011 So she arrives to get me and asks me again is anything wrong, me, and holds me left hand....I am cool as a cucumber just get my ass to work because the less I have to look at you right now the better. I am so angry and pissed at that bullshit troll of an email you sent your bitch ass son yesterday I could seriously bitch smack you. But I can wait to get my revenge. I can, even though everything in me is telling me to get revenge now, but I won't, I will wait until I am back in my home where the fuck I should be, and seriously everyone of you that lives there now is and can be easily replaced. I need no one but me and God and I see that, now clearer than ever.

6/22/2011 8:53AM Just to see if my feelings are off kilter I sent the email to my boy "Loci" he called me back and said he doesn't know what he would do if he was in this position. The email that my wife sent her son was wrong on all levels, and there is definately double standards going on.

That is enough for me, I know I am not crazy and it's not enough to deal with this situation, but to have my wife being like this too is amazing! I am totally at a loss. And for the molester, he got his warm and fuzzy feeling with mom, that hey I fucked your husbands daughter and you still love me and want to protect me!

Then this fucker is feeling so good he tweets:

Again no mention of his mother but this again further validates that this fool and his stupid ass mother are in for a rude awakening. My boy was like I got to make a decision, that burning his ass will put me and my wife at odds, well as I told him.... Fuck it, it is what it is and she can send that molester some fucking commissary. Those are my thoughts about that.

Let's look at the crap this asshole has done, this is what has me bugging out more than anything.
Last Summer my daughter said that it was her step brother that smoked weed with her. From what I can recall he admitted to it only saying he wouldn't smoke with her anymore. Then he stole money from his mother's purse and I believe stole money from his little 1/2 brother as well. He has continued to smoke, not do chores and has left homemade bongs and weed bags in the house, he has been having some type of sexual relationship with his step sister, and finally lied to the school causing me to get thrown out of my own house.

You know as I write this being honest why the fuck am I paying out the ass for something my wifes son did? I mean in all actuality this is a bill her ass needs to be paying. I mean let's be real, had her fucked up ass son not ran like the bitch he is to school and lied, none of this would have happened, so again why the fuck am I paying for this? She loves him, she wants him and is proud of him, so she needs to pay this fucking legal bill.